9/13/25 - Through the Hard, God IS at Work!

Hi All - Some quick changes have taken place since the last post that I wanted to bring you up to speed on.  Since transitioning to Hospice care a little over a week ago, Jason’s health has quickly deteriorated. As a result, this past Thursday he was moved into the Kline Hospice House, close to our home.  

We feel blessed to have such an amazing facility and team to support Jas in these final stages in a way that honors what each of us in our family were most comfortable with.  God worked in INCREDIBLE ways to make this happen with the help of our AMAZING Frederick Hospice Team!  I'm to humbled to share this story of how it all came to be!  

Originally our hospice nurse wasn’t supposed to visit Jas at our house until this past Friday (9/12), as she had just seen him that Tuesday and didn’t feel the need to come sooner. After I saw a significant decline, I called her Thursday am and asked if she could come that day instead.  After she arrived, she quickly agreed that Jason’s decline was significant from earlier in the week and that it was time to get him transferred to the facility we all hoped he would be able to get into.  We had done research for months and had decided that out of all our options, Kline Hospice House would be the best fit for his needs and had succumbed to the fact that we would need to pay a nightly room and board fee for Jas to stay there.  It’s a beautiful 6 bed facility in the country specifically for individuals in their end of life season.  Because it only has 6 beds, the first challenge to overcome was whether or not a bed would even be open and if there was a wait list. The good news here was there was a bed open with no wait list. Thank you Jesus!

So, our hospice nurse asked what my goal was on how quickly I wanted to get Jason there.  I looked at her and said NOW if possible. I felt a huge sense of urgency to get him there while the kids were at school as it was becoming disturbing/scary for them to observe the decline and all the side effects that came with it.  And within 15 minutes we were loading Jas into my car to head to Kline House.

After closing the car door, the hospice worker checked her phone and started crying when she read her text.  She shared that she normally doesn’t get emotional with her patients, but that our case was different. (I think because she has kids our kids' ages it all hits close to home for her.)  She had just received good news that hospice partnered with Kline Hospice House and made an appeal for our case with having young kids at home still and for the first time it was approved that Jason’s entire stay would now be free!  HOLY MOLY!  We had given up on that being a possibility after doing a couple months of research on our options in Frederick County.  Yet when there seems to be no way, God still makes one!  

She said, “Thank you for inspiring us to make a change in our community and for future families in similar situations that still have young kids at home.”  And I was just in absolute AWE that here she was thanking me when I felt all the thanks deserved to go to her and the hospice team for advocating for us without us even knowing.  After hearing Jas and I express our concerns about him being at home during this final stage with kids still in the house, the hospice team recognized that they had not been able to service families with kids at home to the level they now want to and were making a change starting with us.  And you guys, this place is OUTSTANDING!  It truly is a dream to be here. It’s so serene, a huge private room, gorgeous view out his window onto a huge back deck, in the country and only 6 patients max at one time. The nursing staff here is wonderful and so attentive. Everything we had hoped for him if we had to be in this season! 

Upon checking in at the Kline House, I met the nurse and was signing some paperwork. One of the first things she said to me when I asked a question about what I still needed to keep track of and communicate with them was, ”At this point you can just be a wife. You don’t have to worry about anything else while he is here.”  I started to cry because those were the EXACT words I had told Jas months ago that I hoped and prayed for when we got to this stage.  And what Jas wanted for me also, understanding nursing is not my background nor a pressure on my shoulders that I like to have at this stage while still managing 2 kiddos.  WOW, WOW, WOW! Total confirmation from the Lord that this gift of being here at the Kline House is from Him! And on top of it all, He took care of having it 100% covered financially!  The Lord orchestrated ALL of this for Jas and our family and again it gives us a peace that passes all understanding in times like these!

Is Jas able to see visitors?

At this time we will no longer be accepting visitors. However, you are welcome to text me (Megan) at 808-634-5131 with a message or video that I could play or read to him in the short windows that he is now awake.  

How can you help?  Our dear friend designed the brochure below to share the different ways to love on our family right now. It takes a village to walk through these hard times, and we are so thankful for the village the Lord has blessed us with! Thanks for considering and please do not feel any pressure in any way! And for MANY of you who have already helped contribute in so MANY ways, THANK YOU! It is sooooo appreciated! God Bless!

Helpful Links:

Meal Sign Up: https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10C0D4CAAA92EA02-57366788-help?useFullSite=true#/

Financial Support: 

1. 529 Education Fund (See codes in brochure above for each child): Ugift529.com 
2. Venmo ID: @Megan-Wiles-7
3. Zelle ID: meganwiles7@gmail.com

9.8.25 - Transitioning to Next

Hi All - It’s been about a month since our last post and sadly a LOT has changed since then.  

Jas went through 2 more rounds of chemo since the last update.  While the 3rd round of chemo went as smoothly as it could, the 4th round was just unbearable.  For those who aren’t aware, the side effects of chemo are cumulative and get worse with each round.  As a result, things really came to a head after round 4 with horrible side effects.  And while he usually sees energy return by the weekend of a chemo treatment which then leads to a fairly decent week following, no energy returned this past time. This hit him HARD!  Knowing he went into chemo treatments with the mindset of continuing this path as long as his body can tolerate the side effects AND it provides him a better quality of life, we have now reached the point where neither are true. 

Last week Jas made the decision to discontinue chemo, cancel all future appointments and transition to hospice care.  This was a really heavy week emotionally to work through individually as well as a family.  With Taylor being older, she was already more aware of what this means, so of course that can be scary to hear those words.  Quite frankly, while I knew it was on the near horizon, it still took my breath away to hear the request and took time for me to process.  With Tyler, we made sure he understands that the goal of hospice is to make dad as comfortable as he can be and to make it easier for dad to receive care from the home.  We have seen how much of an effort it is for Jas to get into the car, manage through the car rides where any bump, pot hole, quick stop is so hard on his body and then use what energy is left to get through a Dr. appointment. Even talking at this point is so hard for him as it requires so much energy which he no longer has.

This past weekend was filled with meeting our hospice team, transitioning Jas to a new pain med plan to make him more comfortable and help with his labored breathing, changing scripts to being delivered to our house (which is amazing that I’m no longer running to the pharmacy multiple times a week), and setting up our living room with a hospital bed and other essentials for when he can no longer make the flight up to our bedroom at night. 

I will say, we are very much at peace with this being the right decision for the stage Jas is now in.  To know that I can call hospice 24/7 to help and that they can come out to provide the support he needs now feels like a relief to both Jas & I.  

What does this mean for the near future?

Well, his weight is at his lowest point yet.  His pain levels are increasing and it is becoming more and more painful to eat more than a small amount of food a couple times a day.  We will keep him at home as long as we possibly can and while hospice can continue to keep his pain managed from home.  We have been able to talk to the kids about what they are most comfortable with and have a plan in place to support Jason and their wishes for when that no longer is the case.  

Is Jas able to see visitors?  

Due to Jas's current state, we are significantly limiting visits to allow him to rest as comfortably as possible. If considering visiting, please FIRST check in with Megan via text @ 808-634-5131 to see if it’s a good day/time.  His pain/tolerance can change drastically by the hour and is consistently much higher from late afternoon through the night. We wouldn’t want you to waste your time making the trip to then not be able to see him. Other options are to send a video message, email or text that he can read at a time that works well for him.

Have we continued to see God’s hand throughout the hard times and be encouraged that he sees us, hears us and loves us?  

YES!  A continued BIG YES!  We continue to be FLOORED by how God has orchestrated such an army of love and support through those here on earth to help us!  The continued prayers, cards, texts, meals, surprise special treats, help with kids, gift cards, checks, specialized medical help at home, special accommodations for our family including helping transfer our child to a different high school class after the required deadline, etc. are all SO MUCH APPRECIATED!  We truly do feel so loved and are so THANKFUL!

One specific example was the week of Jas’ 4th round of chemo.  It was an awful week from chemo not going well and Jas was noticing there was a correlation between where the lung catheter was located and the pain/discomfort he was feeling on that side of his body.  We decided to ask NIH if they could remove it that week because the pain was becoming intolerable and the fluid the cancer had been producing had completely stopped.  Their initial response back to us was that the OR was fully booked that entire week.  Within a few hours, they had Jas booked for the procedure and all the pre-work up appts scheduled for 2 days later. THANK YOU JESUS!  Mountains were moved!  We are so thankful, as that did relieve some pain that Jas had been experiencing for the 2 months that it was in there while it was needed.  A HUGE PRAISE that the chemo shut down the secretions from the cancer in his lungs!

Another cool example is that Taylor desperately needed new volleyball shoes with the High School Volleyball season kicking off.  When I say desperately, I mean holes in the shoes, bloody heels coming home from practice because the heels had cracked, etc. after wearing them for a full club and high school season prior.  The same weekend we started looking for shoes, a Dick’s gift card arrived in the mail, from Jas’ co-worker, to cover the cost.  Divine timing for sure as very few knew of this need and we are SO APPRECIATIVE!

These words continue to ring true in my ears…. exceedingly, abundantly above all that we ask or think. (Ephesians 3:20)  His provision continues to blow us away!